Resolve Conflicts & Restore Your Connection
Want to strengthen your relationship and improve communication with your partner? Looking for effective techniques to break the ice after an argument? We've got the solution to help you achieve that result. Let's dive in and discover the key to post-argument reconciliation!
Episode Takeaways
Listening to this episode will help you
Master apologizing after a fight to restore harmony and connection in your relationship.
Learn effective text message techniques to break the ice and rebuild connection after an argument, fostering a sense of understanding and closeness.
Uncover the importance of humor in relationship recovery and how it can help diffuse tension and bring lightheartedness back into your connection.
Listen to the Episode
Effective Techniques to Reconnect
Instead of the same old apology, try a little humor or a heartfelt apology. Figure out what your partner likes and needs, and choose the right approach to break the ice. Knowing which approach they'll respond to will help you navigate post-argument situations with more sensitivity and strengthen your relationship.
Master the art of a real apology
Saying sorry isn't enough. To really mend things after a fight, you need to take responsibility and mean it. Admitting your mistakes and showing genuine remorse can help you and your partner understand each other better. By learning how to apologize effectively, you can improve your communication and strengthen your relationship.
“I’m sorry you’re upset” or “I’m sorry you feel that way” are not apologies—no throwaway “Sorry!”s here
Accountability goes a long way (Keeley Jones and Ted Lasso, anyone?)
Apologies might even be easier to say over text because there’s no eye contact/confrontation (like the method we discussed in the emotionally intense kids episode)
Text Messages Are Powerful
A thoughtful text can help you and your partner bridge the gap after a fight. Use humor or heartfelt words to show you understand and want to make things right. Texting can be a great way to start conversations and rebuild trust.
Try These Texts to Repair Your Connection After a Fight
Heartfelt Texts
I love you. I’m on your team, always.
I’m sorry you didn’t feel heard earlier today. I promise to try harder.
We can talk more whenever you’re ready. I just want to tell you I’m sorry.
I can’t wait to see you. I really am so sorry about earlier.
Humorous Texts
So... how was that for you? Or my version, “So… that was fun, eh?”
Let me know when you’re ready for funny memes from me. I really am sorry.
Hello? Is this phone number open to receiving text messages from me yet?
Just remember... if you go the joke route:
For the love of all that is holy, think about the freaking joke. Intent v. impact matters here!
Don’t make jokes that will insult your partner—intentionally or unintentionally
Don’t minimize or invalidate their feelings—or your own
Whatever joke you make, make sure it’s one that you’ll laugh about together
Sources
What To Text Your Partner After A Fight | Samantha Darby for Scary Mommy
Caroline Hogeveen, licensed marriage therapist and mental health counselor
Get more in this week’s blog post, here!
When resolving a conflict with your partner, make good choices!
Love,
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